Why you need to choose your battles carefully, and shed uncesessary stress
For me personally I’m the queen of letting things mount up stress wise ,then I have a blow out , things that most parents take for granted even ASD parents sometimes👎🌈 it could be food for instance, it’s literally the hardest thing for me as a mum , my son is a sensory eater ,he’s not actually bothered about food ,everything he puts in his mouth is alien to him you can see him chewing this like it’s a bush tucker trail , there is some foods he will tolerate and will eat these are dry food not cooked food , it’s a mission in itself to manage medication with a child that will not eat , even the foods he likes!
Today didnt start well!! Oscar wouldn’t drink either , we have had this before where he wouldn’t drink for two and a half days it’s such a worry , usually Oscar will wake up and drink a whole bottle this contains his medication, but since being away from home and our routines broken he refuses which isn’t a great start to the day as you know he’s thirsty and hungry but he won’t allow himself to eat it drink and is becoming more and more anxious .
so today it’s very hot , Oscar finally drank something 🎉later than usual meaning now he has to have 12 hrs between, so will be later to bed , he’s not in the best mood and we have limited sensory distractions around as we are not at home , Oscar refuses food until 1130 so had skipped breakfast but still only ate 5 tuc crackers , so I was stressing out about it as the situation was heading to a meltdown, midtheme park ,and I really didn’t have the mental strength to deal with it! So I took myself out of the situation it sounds harsh but I knew Oscar would calm down and I needed a brain break to reset the tone for the afternoon, so I did exactly that for one hour and it worked , he wasn’t happy about it and he was calling for me but I feel he was with his dad and it’s good for my other children too to see I’m not super human , there are no days off for autism parents , so with this in mind for the future if I feel myself getting overloaded much like Oscar does, I go self regulate , leave Oscar with a safe adult he knows , and take that time out for myself , it’s so important to get reflection time and share the task together , of irradicating unneeded stress, you might be causing yourself, that you could just step back 💙
In my book it’s the brave ones that seek help and support
its totally ok to hold your hands up and say I need a time out 💙I did today it worked , yes I was guilty for the hour and I felt awful but ,Oscar then ate after this ,and we had a lovely hour or so down at the beach , which he wouldn’t have managed in the earlier mood , it wasn’t working this morning he was picking up on my stress , so I switched it up , identified I needed time out and I took it , and rather than writing the day off we got past it by taking control of ourselves, which then rubbed off on Oscar ,who will mirror his environment .
Today was 50/50 for us, we can’t win them all , for me picking my battles is a big one as , when do you know there just plain old being 5 years old ??and when do you know there overloaded , it’s a tough call💙🌈
remove any uncsessary stresses when out if you can, and most certainly do not take on any new battles with food or experiences , as the old habits and routines can become new fears and challenges if away from home
today was 50/50 it could have been worse but I changed direction and oscars mood followed suit 💙🌈😁
i picked my battles carefully
and I refused stress💙💙