Sometimes the small things are the big ones
I kept things low key today, as we attended a Christmas winter wonderland yesterday and although Oscar did really well , it was a lot for him to take in ,and he was super tired last night in bed asleep by 630 pm, it was put on by the local disability Center ,and had a giant snow globe, story telling, decoration making, buiscuit making, the big man in ted(Santa) and a hydrolic polar bear which was huge,I thought he would freak but he really loved it , we stayed a couple of hours and it was really lovely to be amongst other people who also have kids with special needs, all trying to give them positive Christmas experiences .
SNAAP really pulled out all stops to ensure the kids had an amazing time, and I knew it was a lot for Oscar to deal with people on mass, Santa, and a very busy place, we took our time at the things he wanted to do and took a few minutes between each one, they gave each child a soft toy on the way out, which was a really nice touch, as it took the focus off finished , which is something we struggle with .
So today we had planned to put up the tree, and leave all the decorations in a box near it ,so oscar could explore them before we decorated ,that lasted five minutes! He took one said hang it ,Try and started decorating the tree with his brother and sister ,and I did think, did he remember them from last year? Or has he just more understanding now ? It’s magic watching them all decorate and something I never thought I would see ,in previous years he has grabbed decorations off the tree and thrown them ,or attempted to drag the tree to the door , this year really enjoyed the prospect of decorating and was very gentle with them , it’s got me thinking, as I had pre empted that scenario to be a nightmare in my head , and to him it wasn’t a big deal at all , from one year to the next how he could be so affected by something and this year, hey no biggy! I won’t have other decorations this year as I feel that’s pushing my luck .
oscar is allowed to touch anything on our tree, it’s all sensory he can’t break anything , I dont think we will be making house visits over Christmas, incase he thinks he’s allowed to touch any tree! That would be hard to explain ,and I know people get precious about them, ours will look like someone’s swept the floor with it within a week!
So I think for future, I have got to stop getting so anxious about past experiences and realise he is getting older ,and has built up resilience maybe, to Christmas and changes in the home, and if supported with them , he’s ok ,this has really given me hope 🌲