today I was reminded that Christmas will soon be here the most stressful time of the year for Autism parents as there’s no escaping it , people want to celebrate of corse and even Oscar enjoys a little bit of Christmas, but we have to slowly introduce it into the house , tree up one week ,no decorations , bucket of decorations to touch and explore until he’s familiar with them you can then decorate the tree , Oscar hates changes to the home so any changes we make must be slow and he must be able to adjust to them , school is different , everything is different so home has to be the safe zone but we are not toning down the Christmas spirit just the Christmas frills .
Christmas overload is so real for us, Oscar finds Christmas so loud we have other children so we need to make sure there’s a balance, however this is difficult and people try and accommodate us over Christmas but in my heart I know this won’t work , but it’s christmas you can’t let autism rob you of everything , if you let it it will do just that.
our christmases are very different to how they were, decorating isn’t the huge event that is was, we are unable to go to Christmas Eve mass together the day itself is low key, a celebration none the less but it’s very structured , with contingencies in place should things go wrong in the middle of serving dinner !
this year due to last year being so stressful we have decided to spend Christmas just us with the kids , and have a fake tree as Oscar loves nature and real trees upset him, he will try and take it out to the garden no matter how big or how decorated! He is also very strong 😑
, I love people, and I love a house full so I’m a little sore about this year , but you can’t expect the whole world to change for you at Christmas but you can certainly change your world for your Christmas , I feel if we take it slow with Oscar and keep christmases low key for now ,creating nice memories for him and the other children , that are not attached to anxiety it will pave the way for fuller bigger celebrations in years to come , I’m also mindful that my other kids get as much a possible what they remember Christmas to be about for them , so I’m planning now how I cover all bases this year , the days of winging it and going with the flow and impromptu house calls are over , we also limit visitors
so for a minute today I was filled with fear and I realised I don’t enjoy Christmas anymore , which is sad I suppose but I’m looking at the logistics!
im preparing for the worst but hoping for the best , it’s not all bad I’m sure we will have some lovely moments , it’s lovely to be together and watch the kids enjoying each other’s company and we will leave the tray out for Santa , open stockings in the morning have a Christmas breakfast , play games after dinner and have a traditional day but I feel this year we must shut the world out , just to give us half a chance of making sure all the children are emotionally fed this year
Christmas memories last forever
i think people in general become selfish at Christmas there unable to be flexiable in there vision of what they will do , who they will see , when your faced with the facts that your whole day despite planning could go tits up you realise the whole thing is trivial, it’s only the people that matter and how they are feeling , nothing else