I wonder if my son has the Christmas magic feeling , my other kids get 🙏
I’ve been wondering if my ASD son age 5 has any Christmas feelings? Or is it all negative for him? Sensory overload!
My other two kids 11 and 16 have a real Christmas sprit and love everything about our Christmas, each family celebrate in there own way and it resonates in your kids what feels like Christmas and what doesn’t , they both love to be at home, let’s face it it’s hell isnt it when they open everything then you drag them round someone’s house for Christmas dinner, and they make it clear despite the efforts of the other people , they act up they just want to be at home , it’s the equivalent of planning a huge party then staying at home! You let them open there gifts, but because you are being entertained they have to leave there exciting gifts behind , I view this unfair so for us it’s a home day we dont go out on Christmas Day.
On Christmas Eve they like to watch a movie get there pjs on early and get excited before the big man visits , I really think all of this goes over the top of oscars head , he struggles to manage a daily routine let alone understand the Christmas magic I’m talking off , but my other two were 11,6 when he was born and we had established our Christmas way before Oscar came along we just assume that any other children you have fit straight in don’t we!
I really hope if we can keep this magic alive some of it might rub off on him , it’s lovely to think Christmas could be positive for him but also it’s a really big part of childhood ,and something you pass on , we are at the stage with the middle one where he is questioning Santa , it’s a conversation we are never having , I won’t lie to him but I divert from it just because as a parent, I’m not ok with bursting the Christmas bubble , I think it’s unecsessary and would ruin Christmas as they know it .
we have had an issue recently we’re a teacher has told the middle child, Santa didn’t exsist,again not a conversation I’m willing to have I just said I know Christmas magic is real, perhaps your teacher didn’t believe as a child either and we left it there, he was really needing that , it’s ok to believe and he really does with all his heart , which is just beautiful .
It got me thinking as Oscar is my last child , which I’m still gutted about!!! ( that's a different blog), however if lorcan decided he doesn’t believe anymore , which I’m hoping isn’t the case , but if that happens obviously we will carry on our usual Christmas festivities, but as Oscar doesn’t understand Christmas or show me any inclination he understands, that actually is huge , as it means I have no believers in my home! Which would just be heartbreaking 👎
we managed to keep it all alive until this year for all the children and just take the stance if you don’t believe, he won’t bring you the magic it’s a two way deal and we leave the rest up to the imagination, so I think to keep it going until almost 17 , is amazing but to not believe at 11 doesn’t bode well with me, I have told my middle child that Santa very well could leave him a sign , I’m hoping this works or Christmas changes for us!
And I think for me it’s like this, parents of neurotupical kids take that for granted that there kids understand it all, and it’s ok to be told at a young age it’s not real , which isn’t nurturing but I’m not judging everyone’s different , but for me the flip is my kids believe and it’s a beautiful thing, and to have a special needs child that doesn’t understand it , to have him experience the beauty and innocence of Christmas rather than the negative would just be perfect , so for my kids that do feel it and understand it , why would I want it taken away?
life is perfect sometimes until the world seeps in ! I’ve said lots of bad words today !