Stepping inside my sons world at school
So today I get the privilege of visiting my sons school to watch his first nativity, he attends a special needs school that has around 100 pupils the ratio in his class is 8 adults ten children , most of the children are pre and non verbal and have communication and understanding difficulties, due to Autism and special needs , they are a close group of all boys that have been to specialist nursery together from age 2 or 3 ,and for us we have known these children since diagnosis we have become close to them ,and their families and we are equally proud of each other’s children as well as our own .
We gathered in the main hall seated , I was hiding as I really wanted him to take part, he had sat beautifully the day before to watch the older children and today was to be his turn , Oscar loves the stage and watching live theatre on tv ,and really enjoys watching any dance shows my daughter is in live ,or on dvd , he’s been around it from birth as my daughter is a musical theatre performer .
So today the class are bought in by the teachers they all have an adult, I didn’t want Oscar to see me as I knew then he would think it was home time, I felt mean but I hid , I watched him sit with his friends and join in he attempted to sing along and was so relaxed and comfortable, he knew what was expected of him and he did just that, there were moments that he lay down, lay across his teacher but he was like watching a different child , it was like peeking through the window, I got to observe him with his teachers, how he is with them , how they respond to him , how he is with his friends, even going back to September he wouldn’t have tolerated another child sat next to him his progress is huge, he sat still for almost 40 mins, listening and enjoying and most of all he was included ,all the children were , what happened today was truly magical for me .
Oscar is making progress in his environment he is equal to others, his goals are set to be achievable , and he was proud and he was enjoying it , each child enjoyed it in their own way, there was a few runners around the hall a few flappers , some ate the entire performance , some had fidget toys, one little boy had two hands of shaving foam and wiped it on the teachers bald head and beard, and all of this was ok there wasn’t a box to fit in , it was the children’s performance for them to be enjoyed, there wasn’t any rules in how they enjoyed it and it really was so special .
I have two other children 16 and 11 and have been at both ends of the scale , Orla was always solo from nursery ,she demanded it that way, no nerves and sang her heart out loving the attention , lorcan a comedian he was the kid that sang ,of kings! in the hymn when he shouldn’t, or did funny dancing and then there’s Oscar just so angelic and unaware I’m even watching him, and I’ve come to this conclusion , now before you judge, I’m not slagging mainstream schools off , of corse I enjoyed my kids performances but there very rigid , do what I showed you!!, do not make the class look bad!!,teachers in competition etc, parents loving the fact there kids are at the front , got the solo , got the prettiest costume, me included!!!!!!the environment breeds that , mums coming up to you after to compliment you ,and you getting a big head about it!!!!!!!!!
Then in comparison to today a room filled with 💕 love , each mum supporting your child you supporting theirs, no solos , no focus on all that stuff ,just everyone so chuffed their kids even on the stage, and all feeling just, firstly pride but secondly so lucky that they get to be there, and not the mainstream school were to be honest they wouldnt be wanted even in it , as they don’t fit the criteria .
so today I did look through the window into my sons world ,and I will sleep a little better as you know what ?he couldn’t be in better hands 💙forever grateful
Looks so angelic