It’s not all heartache
Autism parenting isn’t all heartache there’s also smugness , smug because I get my oscar a bit longer, I’m gutted my other kids will grow up and leave me ,but for Autism different for as long as there’s breath in my body he won’t , unless he has the skills too , he’s just too vulnerable .
I had at first upon diagnosis thought right im going to have about 6 more kids so oscar would always have support options but actually it probably doesn’t work like that as what I then put in physically , mentally Into raising more kids would take away from what he needs in me now , and that kind of deskills current kids, as truth be told oscar couldn’t ask for better advocates , and as they all grow who knows they could wish to become a supportive carer for him in some capacity , I would never expect them too or ask I would never put that on their shoulders but I think as Autism siblings they are already willingly putting themselves in that position, and both so involved with his care at home , they can only ever benefit from that ,being able to identify and consider something so complex while still remaining a child is something that will give them resilience, as they both remain emotionally balanced and there needs are met , it is a struggle to stay so proactive, but as their mum I have to consider all their needs , we spend a lot of time as a family and it really isn’t all heartache ,I do believe Autism families have a close bond and we share the most special moments together through Oscars Autism , and we celebrate everything even the tiny things , Autism has a great way of making stop and appreciate the small taken for granted things , that in truth I did take for granted before , despite unpredictable behaviours and deregulation of emotion, when Oscar is feeling calm he really is a delight, and I do feel you have to be able to laugh as a family , Oscar has a very querky little personality and a real presence and it’s coming out more and more , it’s lovely to watch him initiate interactions with his siblings and it’s just beautiful to see him responding to them .
we had a precious moment earlier were Oscar suddenly realised that our dogs have noses ,he kept saying nose and going to each dog and with surprise touching there nose getting excited, then going to the other and doing the same and getting very over excited then saying nose and touching his own, my other two kids found it really funny at the fact he had not noticed it before , as it’s something most kids would take for granted , and that’s the beauty of Autism , he was that excited at a dogs nose it could have been Christmas morning it was that magic to him , and while the other two questioned what he was doing once they realised, it was just lovely as he was able to enjoy his realisation and they didn’t question why, the small things really are big 💙💙
The world is starting to open up for Oscar and as it does more and more, he allows us in and it’s really exciting to have confirmation that he , mood dependently want to share that with us , and it’s just a pleasure it really is .
always celebrate the small things as they connect to the bigger ones 💙💙💙💙