Things are really tough at the moment , think we’re about to take a developmental jump💙
Historically Oscar has had bursts of really difficult behaviour and emotional struggles , hightened anxiety off the scale , despite medication it’s like it stops working , this could be down to his diet as he currently only eats toast, I’m having to supplement him also spray the Bread with olive oil , just so he has some fat in his diet for the medication to move around his body it helps slightly , whenever we have these difficult bursts with Oscar we firm up on routine, and usually once they pass a new skill appears , it’s as if he can only put his efforts into one thing , for instance at school and home currently he is showing signs of needing to potty train , he will take his trousers and nappy off and sit on the potty his brain is computing this sequence and because of this he is now struggling in areas he didn’t before, getting dressed, getting in and out of the car, coming home after school.
Oscar has also got constipation which affects his behaviour and stops his medication working so I give him fig juice in his apple juice, this does work but takes a few days , once he is less anxious I’m hoping he goes back to some of the 5 other foods he eats , it all has a bit of a knock on effect .
I would like to think he would make a developmental jump as he has done in the past , in the past he had two weeks of really not coping them he waved, clapped and kissed all on the same day , almost like it bottle necked and once realised he felt better this is very encouraging and we just have to ride the storm , the screaming the throwing himself around at the smallest request, the having zero tolerance for anything at all , except his way , of it was to be another developmental jump this would be a real pattern forming ,as this is the third or forth time he has been this way , and it could be a sign of how his brain stores information as I have been told by many professionals that his actual understanding of language isn’t delayed, he knows exactly what I’m saying , and he has vast knowledge of groups of information of his interest , the alphabet , the atlas, numbers, animals , facts things that can’t be changed things that are predictable .
I'm hoping now with two whole weeks of refusing to eat anything than 50/50 toast and being in such a high anxious state, that once this passes he will have something to show for it , I just feel bad for him he must be exhausted bring in such an anxious state all the time an example of his current emotional state for no trigger at all is , I enter the school hall he is standing with his teacher happy as Larry he sees me it’s transition time he loses it big dramatics hysterical screaming throwing himself on the floor and head butting, we do this until we are outside then is fine he sighs, I put him in his seat and we drive he then does the same either getting out of the car,or entering the house and again at getting ready for bed this is with visual clues and a very cool and collected mother , it’s just proof of how sensory he is .
He is the very reason I created born anxious as during those difficult times of behaviour is a little more extreme or just in general going new places ,we do wear the awareness t shirts , it’s for me so I haven’t got to explain , for him so he’s given a wide birth and for everyone else who may find his behaviour upsetting , at points it must sound like I’m hurting him or he is hurt as he’s very unpredictable and the noises make me shiver so an awareness t shirt helps as I feel if people see an explanation , they allow for that , awareness is kindness we carry that message .
He is defiantly my lesson💙
to be continued....