hello me❤️Time for some feirce planning
Kids are back in the system, monday was pain all 3 kids were in shock it hurt, it was too early , too cold, too grey and plain rude but we made it , all adapted ok and had a great day , leaving me headspace despite being v unwell and sounding like something from a kids tv show to my kids delight, not being able to move above a whisper , I’ve been planning , clearing , business planning and just getting straight very likely I’m going to crash and burn by Thursday, but I do needed the time to get going on a few things , I love planning and I love to see results .
once the house is empty I look around and think man, we have too much stuff, the rule is if I dust a toy I rotate it or I get rid , but every room feels like that so I’m clearing a room a day and boy it feels good , a cleaner space in each room is so beneficial to the mind , and I had been worried Oscar was starting to get overloaded , you know when you take your tree down and Christmas things it’s that feeling❤️ when you have a good clear out but a real one , actually go through stuff draws and things, at one stage today I was thinking oh god I’m just making it worse, but once I had bagged it all up and loaded my car up to donate it felt so good , helping myself and others with less stuff .
I really feel we as a family need to work on that ,I don’t want my kids to find comfort bring overcrowded by too much stuff , travel light I say if you don’t use it , someone else might .
I've also felt quiet cluttered mind-wise, lots of business ideas lots of small tweaks, I’ve wanted to make to oscars toys and play areas, but have had to take a series of notes through Christmas breaks as these changes have to be implemented slowly,he really doesn’t like change , I have my list and there’s no stopping me .
I really think less is more with Autism, in terms of belongings , toys , cuddly toys I think what you provide can be surplus I’m very guilty of this to compensate for a child that doesn’t play , I’m attempting a different view on this ,and will be observing him to see if he responds differently to less options and keeping it simple, we are very aware too many words can overload his brain and then he same goes for toys 💙I’m hoping for some calmer less erratic play 💙
I do feel comfort is a huge issue with toys , Oscar has had a collection of wooden puzzles that he will play with if he is feeling anxious/ unsafe ,he’s had them since a baby and built on them ,and at 5 he still loves them he likes the texture and will stim with them out the corner of his eye , he also lines them up , they are certainly not going anywhere and are his toy of choice .
to be continued