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Born Anxious is a homegrown clothing label with two objectives, to make the clothes as comfortable as possible, whilst also remaining planet friendly, and to hold important information that will aim to help not only the child, but also the caregiver as well when required. As an autism mum myself, I have thought about what could help me and other caregivers whilst trying to be as generic as possible within the designs, alongside giving those the opportunity to personalise their products as well.


Changes to the blue badge

Changes to the blue badge

Oscar holds a blue badge on account of his Autism ,it is deemed safer for him to travel in a car with one when parking and walking to appointments or into school or when going swimming, or to the park anywhere we’re he can run away place himself in danger and get panicked by the world around him , as it entitles him to use disability bays and allows limited parking on some double yellow lines, for up to an hour which I would only do if an emergency , this is his badge and must only be used when he is in the car and the badge has his photo on it , this is reviewed every three years then I will reapply if needed which to be honest I think we will, as Oscar is very unpredictable and unless he has a saftey rein or held tight, he just runs off! and has no awareness of danger .

I would like to hope that this could improve with age but I’m not holding my breath .

I've picked him up many a time prior to the blue badge from the floor ,and used to carry bubbles in my bag so if he had a meltdown getting in or out of his car seat or buggy I could distract him , let’s face it normal car parking spaces are not big enough when you have a child that is fighting you and climbing you to get away we have got wedged between cars a few times!  

Seeking a blue badge is viewed as being extremley  hard with a lengthy application form and it is off putting, and really exposing but from April this year 2019 the rules are changing and the criteria is too , previously  Autism and special needs wouldn’t qualify and an assessment would have to be completed face to face before a decision would be made ,this can be very offputting and not always successful .

Holding a blue badge when you have what appears to be a normal child with you comes with a price , you do get bibbed, shouted at and flashed as people think your ignoring the sign , I had someone shout at me before it’s not a f@cking mother and toddler space love , my reply was guess what? There are disabled small kids too there not all in wheel chairs! It was met with apology but it’s just an example of how people say what they see.

There was a time  I was  really badly abused outside my sons nursery ,I was on a single yellow line outside the building on the road the closest space I could find, I had a call to say could I collect he had become upset so I rushed there parked my car collected him, it’s when his seizures first started he would really loose control after an abscence, on collection he didn’t know me,he attacked me head butted me and was really frightened ,I just needed to get him into the car in his belt with his tv 📺 and a drink ,  I was met by this person screaming move your F 🌟ING car now!! I can’t get through, I ignored her she was really getting bad ,continuously bibbing, each time she did Oscar became harder to clip in , I said can you shop bibbing your scaring him I showed her my blue badge,she shouted out I will wipe my arse on that !!now move , in that moment with Oscar a priority, I just let it go ,but I was at sloth speed , we had generated a lot of attention as it was school pick up the road was now blocked but I sat in my car until Oscar was calm ,she was actually going purple, I was holding my middle finger up to her I thought she was going to explode her kids were even shouting, by this point she was bibbing and bibbing, but with Oscar now calm and safe I thought No you can wait  a bit longer, so we sat there another while I then drove under 5 miles an hour up a very long one way road finger still on show , I wasn’t rude I kept my cool but I took the power back in that moment, she was awful to me. She needed to pay😂she had  no mum code at all, if I saw another mum in that position I would offer help, it reminded me not everyone supports each other or cares  

I hope now with amendments to the criteria it can be easier for those who need a blue badge for safety or health needs to get them , and even if it is assessment based now the criteria has changed they will be considered   Were as before if you didn’t fit the criteria this wouldn’t be the case .  

Here’s a link to the changes coming in April this year  

https://leasing.com/car-leasing-news/blue-badge-hidden-disabilities-changes-2019/amp/ 

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