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Born Anxious is a homegrown clothing label with two objectives, to make the clothes as comfortable as possible, whilst also remaining planet friendly, and to hold important information that will aim to help not only the child, but also the caregiver as well when required. As an autism mum myself, I have thought about what could help me and other caregivers whilst trying to be as generic as possible within the designs, alongside giving those the opportunity to personalise their products as well.

Pulling my bloody socks up

Pulling my bloody socks up

It’s half term again!!!! Over confidence has got me again and I’ve planned a 4 day trip second week! Why? Why do I do that ? I’ve now got to pull my bloody socks up with the planning, it’s going to have to be night work i think , Oscar will literally come and grab you in the middle of what your doing , even if it’s cooking !

That’s if you can escape him long enough that is,  mostly he doesn’t know why he wants you and once he has you, will push you away, but like most ASD preschoolers which is what I class him as , as he is just 5 and has no independence skills in play or socially , he needs me on tap and that’s totallly fine , but packing and preparing for a trip is just not going to happen pre water shed!!

 I will be list making and careful planning to ensure we don’t forget anything for this trip Usually we’re fine we have taken many small trips and usually can’t fit everything in the boot, as wether it’s 4 days or 4 weeks I’m sure most ASD parents will agree ,it isn’t possible to travel light , home comforts really are the make or break for us ,his travel cot, familiar books, his bedding and night light even his Aldi’s bread and toaster plus many others small things that for him really make him feel calm and settled .

I always seem to have a big list , things that I put off firstly as I forward plan far too in advance, it’s my dream list for Oscar, I set goals for him then try try try to reach them.

The  three biggys are ,and have been for two years, big boy bed( will he ever be ready?will I? I’m just worried as he loves his cot so much and sleeps so well, but I think he really would love the independence of a big boy bed, trouble is his extreme anxiety means he can’t manage change , and there’s not really any slow way to convert!).

secondly , potty training this is a real BIG one as he toys with the idea often, personally it’s a long term goal , I would prefer that he is full ready, then just go for it , solid plan really consistent and quick, here’s to dreaming for now on that one , and finally drinking from a cup! Something he used to do then regressed😞I will never give up on this , just kept introducing the same cup and hope he one day just thinks sod it .  

So I feel I have a massive toy cul to do donate to the hospital nursery , rotating everything and minimising keeps him interested with toys, he loves new things to explore so once Easter is over I’m pulling my socks up on this front, and while he’s not in school i shall be testing the water for our three big things and making sure we have everything in place, for once he shows me the slightest sign he is ready , cot wise hard one, as he doesn’t try and climb out , he sleeps well and still fits in his large egg shape cot, part of me thinks if it’s not broken don’t fix it 😶 and the other part is just longing to give him the big boy bed, I know eventually he would be really happy in and very proud , as he has this pride that beams out of him when he achieves, and he does like a change.

I’m just not sure the cot would be a change he would like  !!! Also I know it’s petty but I really would like to make some changes to his room now he is bigger, it’s been the same forever a different view would be a lovely change for him and me ,I love a change up 🌈

We just need to be proactive in planning , pick up on the signals he is giving us and predict if it’s time or not  , moving forward is the aim after so much regression , I don’t mind the speed but it’s forward we go .

Im pretty sure most ASD parents overthink I try to limit mine as it will take over  , I also over plan everything and try to play senarios  in my head ,account and allow for them , it is extra work but if somethings preventable then it’s worth the planning and prep , I do wing it a lot I think all parents do but I am guilty of the over thinking too 💙🌟it’s my way of keeping control .


When your Reminded that you do actually unintentionally put your Autustic child 1st,2nd and 3rd and you feel shitty about it.

When your Reminded that you do actually unintentionally put your Autustic child 1st,2nd and 3rd and you feel shitty about it.

People staring hurts the most 😞

People staring hurts the most 😞