Learning how to let things go🌟🌈
After a fierce few weeks, some realisation and some really proactive planning , I’m at the stage where I’ve come to the conclusion you have got to be able to let the small things go, sometimes even the bigger stuff too, as by doing just that, your left with the mountains, that of you don’t at least start climbing now ,you stand no chance of ever climbing .
For instance therapy we need to begin a 6 week assessment! so you need those dates booked in to allow that to take place , will it be easy? Interrupting the school routine ? No! Will it be 6 weeks of upset Thursdays ! Probably but planning forward for September and beyond starts now , 6 week assessment starting next week , meeting to discuss that straight after , EHC review called early in May, why? Because July is too late , that’s the end of term how can we plan when everyone’s out on holiday , planning is key we need the plan set in stone for next school year in the current year , otherwise we have to plan and put in supports once terms already started, which just won’t work, so minor upsets are worth it when you look at the bigger picture , which was on my radar before, but it isn’t until you are faced with something that you can’t sweep under the carpet you have to deal with it ,because it’s health, that you do slowly start to realise that the behaviours associated with it ,although are stressful , mentally you start to understand them and what you need to do about it ,which is planning , as to know all of this and be sluggish in my planning for him would just be heartbreaking ,
Its also the beauty and the reason why I use private therapists ,as there impartial and advocate wholeheartedly for my son ,and then I can be at rest in my mind that I’m also advocating to the best of my ability .
So when planning long term for the bigger goals, you do start to let the smaller stuff go as time passes those small niggles come and go but the bigger stuff, WHAO!!!!! that’s still there, can’t walk around it ,can’t get under it you got to roll your sleeves up get those hiking boots on and go for it , it really is the only way with the big stuff .
worrying never leaves a special needs parent, but you can organise and prioritise it , it helps me to tackle to scary stuff first as it has a knock on effect for the rest .
Transparency is also key , I keep all old reports and emails to referr back to I highlight names or notes made, and always refresh before meetings as there’s so, so many professionals involved with my son they could fill a tour bus! it’s important to be transparent not just expect all other professionals to be, remember you are the one constant advocate for your child other people come and go .
This really is game time for us and I’m so grateful for the supports but I’m following my gut in this one, a Mum’s intuition is required.
to be continued 🌈