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Born Anxious is a homegrown clothing label with two objectives, to make the clothes as comfortable as possible, whilst also remaining planet friendly, and to hold important information that will aim to help not only the child, but also the caregiver as well when required. As an autism mum myself, I have thought about what could help me and other caregivers whilst trying to be as generic as possible within the designs, alongside giving those the opportunity to personalise their products as well.


Refusing judgement

Refusing judgement

So we’re currently on holiday in France and from what I’ve noticed , and it could be a language barrier regarding disabilities!!! don’t quote me, but they seem very behind in Autism awareness and neurodiversity!

Oscars behaviours seem to be completely not tolerated at all , like ,no understanding of it , there is judgement , it doesn’t feel nice , I refuse judgement, but I can see why we look like we’re not managing a naughty child!

we saw a few parents with children with additional needs, struggling in the heat in corners or on grass verges almost as if they feel they have to ,firstly get away from the people and crowds , there didn’t seem to be any chill out areas which is the one thing very much needed , one lady was having to lay down on the grass and cover her child while he calmed down , it draws attention, something Autistic children can’t cope with , I think that’s for me the one thing lacking there all other services were marvellous , and in reality I know you can’t have it all .

 Our trip was on the hole a huge success even if we hadn’t allowed for the 27 degree temperature !!!☀️

when he’s laying on the floor in a packed Disney land screaming because you won’t climb up a hill to the flowers, that are out of bounds and he’s totally not bribeable , I get it I really do ,but in any language surely at almost 6 years old, flapping , shreking it’s very very clear that things are a miss? Isn’t it? Or is it just me??

I don’t care if people stare really, but with our buggy we have, that has a disability sticker on it which I’m pretty sure is the same symbol in all languages! I just think , if you think this is bad what he’s doing now , well frankly you have no idea!!! as he’s in first gear, it’s not really oscar I worry about as currently he’s oblivious at this time, but it’s not nice for my other children! It makes them uncomfortable to be reminded we stand out, and above all despite the odd meltdown , oscars doing so well managing social situations , he’s working so hard at it, we are working really hard at it as a family , all of us to pad the situations out for him and us ,just to get some much needed family time , which is precious to all families especially those with special people .

  We went to the Mickey Mouse cafe and they very nearly didn’t allow our large buggy inside,   As if we were being awkward !!!if they had not, the implications would be no meal with the characters 😶something my older two kids had been looking forward to, Oscar did like some of the characters and acknowledged them, but some he ignored completely , we did get a few looks!

The  family opposite us were really into it and did keep looking over as if we were being neglectful, by leaving Oscar in his buggy with his tablet and not sitting him to the table but, the facts are he was happy , felt safe, only eats pack lunch not meals , wouldn’t have stayed to the table and wouldn’t have tolerated it so we left him in his buggy the characters came to visit him and were great, but you could tell we were viewed as neglectful , from experience I view that as genius😊 he was happy we were able to sit at a meal table in a restaurant🌟  which doesn’t happen often , but I can understand why this is viewed badly from the outside looking in .

I feel glad for our planned mini breaks with Oscar, we have always done them he is used to it he loves to travel and explore different places , he has an amazing memory and remembers feeling happy at places we revisit, and for him Disney is a big thumbs up,

The  disability services are second to none at Disney, minimal ques even in peak season with the pass, and I plan well , all his comforts around him , it’s key for a successful trip  , it also gives a chance to spend some quality time with our other kids who are more than tolerant of the different trips now with Oscar than before but they have accepted it and adjusted , much like Oscar adjusts as he isn’t comfortable in the world without adaptations , but I’m very proud of all three kids this trip as Oscar is getting harder to manage the behaviours associated with him not coping are Geri g bigger and our efforts to comfort him are also getting bigger, we will just keep evolving and learning , and we won’t stop taking the trips I think there vital💙

Huge respect for all special needs parents who travel with their kids it’s not easy but so worth it 🌟 

Eyes opened once again why we need to continue Autism awareness and make this world kinder and more accepting   With Oscar going to be an adult one day forever on my mind . 

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Simple days, turn out to be the best ones☀️

Simple days, turn out to be the best ones☀️

Weirdly enough we need the bad days!

Weirdly enough we need the bad days!

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